Am I "being silly" for not wanting my husband to wear his wedding tuxedo to a non-formal work event?
When my husband and I got married, instead of making him rent an outfit, I bought him a beautiful custom fit navy blue tuxedo. It is very formal, and
When my husband and I got married, instead of making him rent an outfit, I bought him a beautiful custom fit navy blue tuxedo. It is very formal, and I wanted to buy it for him as an heirloom and to be something that he would hopefully wear when we renewed our vows someday. Most of his family was in England when we got married, and so we always knew that we were going to have a vow renewal in England with them someday.
My husband recently informed me that he wants to wear his wedding tux to announce a children's dance recital. He is a P.E. teacher, and is announcing this event as a favor for another department. They aren't even his students. The event is semi-formal. None of the audience or stage members will look any nicer than any old Sunday. I think it's extremely disrespectful for him to wear such a formal and sentimental outfit to an event that is business casual, not black tie. He thinks I am too emotional. Any advice?
or:When my husband and I got married, instead of making him rent an outfit, I bought him a beautiful custom fit navy blue tuxedo. It is very formal, and I wanted to buy it for him as an heirloom and to be something that he would hopefully wear when we renewed our vows someday. Most of his family was in England when we got married, and so we always knew that we were going to have a vow renewal in England with them someday.My husband recently informed me that he wants to wear his wedding tux to announce a children's dance recital. He is a P.E. teacher, and is announcing this event as a favor for another department. They aren't even his students. The event is semi-formal. None of the audience or stage members will look any nicer than any old Sunday. I think it's extremely disrespectful for him to wear such a formal and sentimental outfit to an event that is business casual, not black tie. He thinks I am too emotional. Any advice?
or:Yes, you are being silly. He might never get another chance to wear it, and there is a chance he will never fit into it again. It does him no good hanging in a closet.My wife dyed her wedding dress, raised the hem, and wore it to work.
or:Yes, you are. He wants to wear the tuxedo, which has served its intended purpose already, and might well do so again in England some day. But, I fear, indulging in histrionics, and creating such a fuss about your husband's deciding on his own how to dress on that particular occasion will not benefit your relation. You are about to adopt a mother's attitude towards a five year old, telling him not to wear his sunday attire in the playground.
or:I do think it might be overdressing.On the other hand, it doesn't really have the traits of an heirloom - modern items are low quality (degrading over time), affordable and common (as in mass produced), not to mention the indifference exhibited by the generations growing up in this environment. Furthermore, it's a custom suit - unlikely to fit descendants. My grandfather left behind a dozen or so and they're still collecting dust, he was quite tall.There may or may not be any future use for the suit (do note a significant body structure change may render it unwearable), but if you feel more towards its safekeeping than utility then rationality has nothing to do with it. Which is fine if you're not otherwise vying for control over other aspects as well.
