Am I wrong for being mad?
I live with my fiance and work part time. Im the only one currently working. We have a joint bank account. I told him I dont mind if he gets gas and i
I live with my fiance and work part time. I'm the only one currently working. We have a joint bank account. I told him I don't mind if he gets gas and if he needs anything else to ask first. I don't mind getting him things most of the time. I'm starting to get irritated with him. Last month he went out and made a deal to buy a $200.00 guitar without asking me first. We worked that out. Because I still owe on the guitar and I don't make a lot of money. I told him I was going to be really short this week because i'm paying off the guitar. He won $25.00 at a contest and wanted to buy some cards online. I told him that was fine but asked him to wait till I got paid. I needed to buy some uniforms for the new job i'm starting and he could gets the cards at the same online store. I asked him to wait so I could get free shipping without having to spend extra money. Last night I was really sick and waiting to leave work. While I was waiting for someone to take over my shift. He went out and bought a gift card so he could get his stuff. I'm upset because now I can't afford everything I need for my new job because I now have to come up with extra money to cover shipping cost. Am I wrong for being mad about that?
Whenever I get anything I always give him half or get him something. Am I wrong for being hurt that he never appreciates or returns the favor? I seem to always go without for him. On my birthday we went shopping and his stuff cost more then mine. I couldn't afford everything so I put one of my things back so he could get his stuff. I feel like i'm being to generous,
or:I live with my fiance and work part time. I'm the only one currently working. We have a joint bank account. I told him I don't mind if he gets gas and if he needs anything else to ask first. I don't mind getting him things most of the time. I'm starting to get irritated with him. Last month he went out and made a deal to buy a $200.00 guitar without asking me first. We worked that out. Because I still owe on the guitar and I don't make a lot of money. I told him I was going to be really short this week because i'm paying off the guitar. He won $25.00 at a contest and wanted to buy some cards online. I told him that was fine but asked him to wait till I got paid. I needed to buy some uniforms for the new job i'm starting and he could gets the cards at the same online store. I asked him to wait so I could get free shipping without having to spend extra money. Last night I was really sick and waiting to leave work. While I was waiting for someone to take over my shift. He went out and bought a gift card so he could get his stuff. I'm upset because now I can't afford everything I need for my new job because I now have to come up with extra money to cover shipping cost. Am I wrong for being mad about that? Whenever I get anything I always give him half or get him something. Am I wrong for being hurt that he never appreciates or returns the favor? I seem to always go without for him. On my birthday we went shopping and his stuff cost more then mine. I couldn't afford everything so I put one of my things back so he could get his stuff. I feel like i'm being to generous,
or:You are right for being mad. Your like the man of the house. Your paying everything and your the only one working. He needs to get a job and its not right for you to buy him stuff when he should be the one buying you stuff. And if he is your fiance then he better start looking for a job because he is going to have to support you and help out. And it shouldn't be right for you to buy stuff for him on your birthday! And his stuff shouldn't even cost more then yours on your birthday and he should've put one of his stuff away instead of yours. It was your birthday! He needs to work on being a gentleman!
or:I would be mad too! He needs to realize that he is an adult and you won't be there paying his way. In a sense by paying for everythinh you are inableing him to care for himself. What were to happen if you two broke up? I would sit down and talk to him about getting a job. You need to explain to him that you two are in a relatioship and it should go both ways. Tell him you cannot afford to foot every bill and he needs to step up as not only a man but as a grown adult. I feel when this happens you two will have a better relationship with less fights. Hope this helps:)
