Bf (44yo) is insecure, lacks experience w/ sex, too nurturing ¬ sexual. Advice for better sex?
We have been together for 2 1/2 years and are planning to get married. Hes perfect... and we have so many things in common. He assures me that he is
We have been together for 2 1/2 years and are planning to get married. He's perfect... and we have so many things in common. He assures me that he is attracted to me, but never initiates sex. He is very old-fashioned and conservative. He says that he would like more sex, but I have never seen him "desiring sex." It's turning into a more nurturing relationship but not a sexual relationship at all.
or:We have been together for 2 1/2 years and are planning to get married. He's perfect... and we have so many things in common. He assures me that he is attracted to me, but never initiates sex. He is very old-fashioned and conservative. He says that he would like more sex, but I have never seen him \"desiring sex.\" It's turning into a more nurturing relationship but not a sexual relationship at all.
or:Have you try to push the issue ?
or:I'm not experienced with this sort of thing (I'm still a virgin), but maybe if you take charge. Get a cute, relieving outfit just for that occasion. Maybe takes some classes in stripping, pole dancing, or lap dancing. Or try bondage, with you in control. He sounds like he doesn't really know exactly what to do, so guide him a bit and build his confidence. And I'm sure there are plenty of websites that give helpful information. Just google it :)
or:He can't be \"that\" old-fashioned!If he is having sex b4 marriage!Maybe he does not want to be the 1 that starts it!There are going to be +'s & -'s in any relationship!It's all a matter of full, total, complete, unconditional acceptance!On both sides!Perhaps during those times of sex, you could talk to him,ask him what is it that he is looking for?What he needs, wants, desires from you?start the foreplay/sex?!Tell him you don't mind starting it!In situations like this.All it takes is plain, good old-fashioned, common sense!If there is something wrong!Ask!if he or you do not want to talk about it!then just wait for the next time.
or:What do you want??There is love,nurturing,sex.But! what is going to count down the rd.?Marriage means being together for the long-haul!!!!Through all the ups-downs-and the in between.
or:Id delay the wedding if I wete you. A marriage takes place in two rooms...the bedroom and the livingroom.You're having trouble in both. If you don't have a fulfilling sex life now it's not likely to get any better later. If you have such lousy communication that you can't discuss it and you have to talk to total strangers on a website you are in deep doo-doo sweetie.You need to have some honest up front discussion about sex.
or:Id delay the wedding if I were you. A marriage takes place in two rooms...the bedroom and the livingroom.You're having trouble in both. If you don't have a fulfilling sex life now it's not likely to get any better later. If you have such lousy communication that you can't discuss it and you have to talk to total strangers on a website you are in deep doo-doo sweetie.You need to have some honest up front discussion about sex.
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