Blending a family crisis?

Hello Im going through some difficult times and need advice I am divorced with 3 young boys (6,4,3) who live with me Monday to Friday my boyfriend and

Hello I'm going through some difficult times and need advice I am divorced with 3 young boys (6,4,3) who live with me Monday to Friday my boyfriend and I have lived together for 2 +years and his children who visit on weekends (9/10) have never appreciated my home as theirs so we were living in a house where we had enough bedrooms but now we have downsized and my bf is fighting with me because here's the issue he of course wants his kids to feel equal and be and feel part of our family which they are but I don't honestly feel now that they have to share my boys bedroom while my boys are gone on the weekends with their dad and we have his kids on the weekend the issue is his kids are lazy pre teens who don't take pride in my house my belongings do not follow the same rules expectations or routine and they don't typically change their clothes on the weekends unless we have a family function to attend....and now that we're in this small house I don't feel we need to provide them with their own dresser and stuff they don't play with toys and everything they had in their own bedroom at our previous house collected dust....they never changed theit clothes....I don't know Im very torn because I wish they did look at my house as their home but they don't so I need help I feel bad I donot wanna clutter my boy bedroom with their shit that isn't gonna be utilized to me it's just going to be more shit....I'm not saying they can't have a few things and if they want clothes why can't they bring a bag from their moms?

or:Hello I'm going through some difficult times and need advice I am divorced with 3 young boys (6,4,3) who live with me Monday to Friday my boyfriend and I have lived together for 2 +years and his children who visit on weekends (9/10) have never appreciated my home as theirs so we were living in a house where we had enough bedrooms but now we have downsized and my bf is fighting with me because here's the issue he of course wants his kids to feel equal and be and feel part of our family which they are but I don't honestly feel now that they have to share my boys bedroom while my boys are gone on the weekends with their dad and we have his kids on the weekend the issue is his kids are lazy pre teens who don't take pride in my house my belongings do not follow the same rules expectations or routine and they don't typically change their clothes on the weekends unless we have a family function to attend....and now that we're in this small house I don't feel we need to provide them with their own dresser and stuff they don't play with toys and everything they had in their own bedroom at our previous house collected dust....they never changed theit clothes....I don't know Im very torn because I wish they did look at my house as their home but they don't so I need help I feel bad I donot wanna clutter my boy bedroom with their shit that isn't gonna be utilized to me it's just going to be more shit....I'm not saying they can't have a few things and if they want clothes why can't they bring a bag from their moms?

or:Your kids follow the etc kit right?they should bring clothes from their moms house that would be a situation where it would be important this should be his belief as well. They shouldn't disrespect your home and dad should have a talk with them concerning this issue plus they should respect your boys bedroom you also should meet in the middle on yours and your boyfriends expectations for his kids but needs to be fair.If they change their clothes I could see the dresser but they don't got to meet in the middle on things or will ruin you and your boyfriends relationship.

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