Boyfriend says he wouldn't marry me unless I sign a prenup cause he wouldn't want me to get spousal?
I am so offended and upset, I feel like he doesnt trust me. Weve been together for almost 2 years now and will be moving to a new city together short
I am so offended and upset, I feel like he doesn't trust me. We've been together for almost 2 years now and will be moving to a new city together shortly. I make quite a bit less financially than he does...he says a lot of men he works with have been screwed over during divorces and have to pay their ex wives spousal support.....which is why he would want me to sign a prenup. How should I feel about this? I love him a lot and want to marry him someday, but I get so upset when we bring up this subject...I don't know how to feel
or:I am so offended and upset, I feel like he doesn't trust me. We've been together for almost 2 years now and will be moving to a new city together shortly. I make quite a bit less financially than he does...he says a lot of men he works with have been screwed over during divorces and have to pay their ex wives spousal support.....which is why he would want me to sign a prenup. How should I feel about this? I love him a lot and want to marry him someday, but I get so upset when we bring up this subject...I don't know how to feel
or:he is right, there are lots of women taking advantage of men after divorce and i believe that prenup agreements will become the norm as we go further. you should not feel offended, you should appreciate he is mature enough to think long term. people can change and he seems to know that - i can witness that people can change dramatically over time, it is my own experience
or:In my view the world has changed for worse as to marriage. Yes, marriage used to mingle two people in a family with common goals, common support etc. However, due to the massive change in legislation mainly driven by the feminist movement, there have been a lot of abuses by women against men. Women whom had neved done anything but suddenly getting half. Or even worse, men being forced to pay a livetime alimony based on a certain level of income and then trown into jail after loosing the job and not being able to pay. All this things have driven men to be extremelly cautios when engaging into relationships. I do not think that the old fashioned 'I get half' will last long in the future. So, as long as he asks for a prenup then you also should demand a clear plan on how the finances will be managed and ask to save a share for yourself instead of waiting for a future half. I do not know how this can be legally enforced, probably it would worth seeking some legal advice. Definitelly you need to protect your financial wellfare in the future but rather than aiming tomthe traditional split, proactivelly build it by yourself. It is a pitty that relationships evolved into such crap, they tend to be more commercial than emotional nowadays. But sadly I do not see any way back
or:It is not a matter of trust it is a matter of knowledge. All women in a divorce get everything they can regardless of any promises they may have made. However, I believe a prenup can only protect what he brought into the marriage and then only if it hasn't be co-mingled.In any event, if you have been married for a number of years, you will receive a reasonable portion of the assets accumulated during the marriage. A prenup that states otherwise will be disregarded by the court.
