Could it be my fault I'm physically/verbally abused?
Hi there, so Im starting to wonder whether Im actually causing my own abuse.Ive been with my current girlfriend for just over a year, and the hitting
Hi there, so I'm starting to wonder whether I'm actually causing my own abuse.
I've been with my current girlfriend for just over a year, and the hitting has just started. It's not been too bad so far, just a few slaps and neck grabs. I normally just get over it quite quickly, so I don't really suffer too greatly.
I also have a group of friends whom I've known coming up to ten years. I recently realised that when we have group chats, I'm always the one that is verbally abused, consistently.
What I'm starting to consider is, what is it about me that is drawing abuse? And how can I change it?
I should add that I've been physically abused by all my girlfriends. One tried to head-butt me and knee me in the balls when I told her I cheated on her.
Another tried to strangle me in my sleep, not sure what that was about.
So it is as if I'm drawing this abuse. I'm fairly confident that my behaviour doesn't draw this abuse, when I'm abused by friends it's just because I've been asking something I should already know. When it comes to my recent girlfriend, I think its because I was trying to dump her.
So, what do you think?
or:Hi there, so I'm starting to wonder whether I'm actually causing my own abuse.I've been with my current girlfriend for just over a year, and the hitting has just started. It's not been too bad so far, just a few slaps and neck grabs. I normally just get over it quite quickly, so I don't really suffer too greatly.I also have a group of friends whom I've known coming up to ten years. I recently realised that when we have group chats, I'm always the one that is verbally abused, consistently.What I'm starting to consider is, what is it about me that is drawing abuse? And how can I change it? I should add that I've been physically abused by all my girlfriends. One tried to head-butt me and knee me in the balls when I told her I cheated on her.Another tried to strangle me in my sleep, not sure what that was about.So it is as if I'm drawing this abuse. I'm fairly confident that my behaviour doesn't draw this abuse, when I'm abused by friends it's just because I've been asking something I should already know. When it comes to my recent girlfriend, I think its because I was trying to dump her.So, what do you think?
or:People shouldn't hit others. But hearing you cheated on your girlfriend, and I want to hit you. Maybe if you were a better person / boyfriend, your girlfriends would love you.
or:It dosent mater what the reason it dosent give anyone the right to hit another. With your current gf I would talk to her about it and see if you can fix what ever yor problem. May be. I think it was probably your fault if you cheated on. Your gf but it still dosent give her the right to hit you
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