Domestic violence?

My husband and I have been together for just under 4 years. He has anger management issues and yells every once in a while but last month was differe

My husband and I have been together for just under 4 years. He has anger management issues and yells every once in a while but last month was different. He put his finger in my face while we were driving and asked me "what are you gonna to do about it?" I waited a few minutes for him to calm down and then I told him not to ever put his hand in my face again. The argument was about him lying to me about something stupid. We went home and I scurried around to get dressed and just leave for a while but he met me at the door and wrapped his arms around me for 10 minutes telling me how sorry he was.

This weekend, there was absolutely no reason for him to get angry to any extent. He lost his mind out of nowhere and started screaming and cussing. I walked away and he got louder and louder. I walked back over to quietly beg him to calm down because my kids were right down the hall. He kept yelling telling me we could take it outside... tank WHAT outside?? Then he pushed me twice. I went to smack him but he hit me in the face instead. I smacked him for sure after that and then my body hit the floor.

My husband has never been physically violent and I've never smacked a person in my life. I went to the commissioner for protection and they ended up taking pictures of the damage done to my body (they could see it).

Here is my question:
My husband is an addict when it comes to working out.
He can benchpress over 400lb.
I went through all of his supplements because this is beyond out of character for him. There are literally over 30 different supplements and at least 2 prescriptions. 4 of the supplements have the disclaimer that they will increased aggression and violence.

What also doesn't make sense is that in the 6 hours from the time he hit me until the police came, he didn't call or text to apologize, try to see we were ok... nothing.
Now in the days since he has been more of a jerk than ever. He has his family bullying me into dropping charges that I couldn't even drop if I wanted to. It's a mess. Why would anyone go from best husband in the world to violent and cold?

or:My husband and I have been together for just under 4 years. He has anger management issues and yells every once in a while but last month was different. He put his finger in my face while we were driving and asked me \"what are you gonna to do about it?\" I waited a few minutes for him to calm down and then I told him not to ever put his hand in my face again. The argument was about him lying to me about something stupid. We went home and I scurried around to get dressed and just leave for a while but he met me at the door and wrapped his arms around me for 10 minutes telling me how sorry he was. This weekend, there was absolutely no reason for him to get angry to any extent. He lost his mind out of nowhere and started screaming and cussing. I walked away and he got louder and louder. I walked back over to quietly beg him to calm down because my kids were right down the hall. He kept yelling telling me we could take it outside... tank WHAT outside?? Then he pushed me twice. I went to smack him but he hit me in the face instead. I smacked him for sure after that and then my body hit the floor.My husband has never been physically violent and I've never smacked a person in my life. I went to the commissioner for protection and they ended up taking pictures of the damage done to my body (they could see it).Here is my question:My husband is an addict when it comes to working out. He can benchpress over 400lb.I went through all of his supplements because this is beyond out of character for him. There are literally over 30 different supplements and at least 2 prescriptions. 4 of the supplements have the disclaimer that they will increased aggression and violence.What also doesn't make sense is that in the 6 hours from the time he hit me until the police came, he didn't call or text to apologize, try to see we were ok... nothing.Now in the days since he has been more of a jerk than ever. He has his family bullying me into dropping charges that I couldn't even drop if I wanted to. It's a mess. Why would anyone go from best husband in the world to violent and cold?

or:Best Husband in the world to violent and cold.I think right there, you already answered your own question when you told us that he has 4 supplements with a disclaimer that you will get increased aggression and violence.I think my top priority would be to either talk to him about getting rid of his supplements and taking it easy on his working out OR dropping this and leaving him and taking your kids with you.This depends on how much worse he gets or how much better he gets.I really do think he should stop taking his supplements.You need to tell him that he's hurting you, the relationship between you 2, and worse... your children.Do not forget about your kids, the way your husband is acting is NOT GOOD for your children. You NEVER KNOW what the future will hold for your husband... the way he is now, pushing you twice, hitting your face, and hitting the floor, that's abuse and I would really not want you to get even more abused after that. If you do get physically abused again after that, I would take your children and get the hell away from him.I know you love him but this isn't right for your children. If he continues with this aggression and violence, it could be your children next that he hits. You don't want that, do you?Then, go spend a few nights with your parents or somewhere else, away from your husband(Only if you see signs of anymore violence and aggression)

or:Many men like your husband grew up in violent families, and as adults they think that their behavior is acceptable\u2014even normal. But there is nothing normal about domestic violence. That is why most people are appalled when they learn that a man has battered his wife.Like many perpetrators of domestic violence, your husband knows how to put on a \u201cgood-guy\u201d pretense when he is in the public eye or with his wife\u2019s parents. But when he is alone with his wife, he is terribly cruel. The story below is a true one.Valerie: I lived in constant fear. At times I had to flee the house until Troy calmed down. For all that, I found his verbal abuse even more difficult to endure than the physical violence.Troy, had you always been violent?Troy: Yes, from my childhood on. I grew up in a violent atmosphere. My father regularly beat my mother in front of me and my siblings. After he left, my mother took up with another man, and he also beat her. He also raped my sister\u2014and me. He went to prison for that. Of course, I realize that none of this excuses my behavior.Valerie, you stayed in the marriage. Why?Valerie: I was afraid. I thought to myself, \u2018What if he hunts me down and kills me or my parents? What if I report him and the situation gets worse?\u2019When did things begin to change?Troy: My wife began studying the Bible I became even more violent but I realized I need help and after sometime I study the bible too. What Bible principles helped you to change?Troy: There are so many. At 1\u00a0Peter 3:7, the Bible says that I should show my wife \u201chonor.\u201d Galatians 5:23 encourages \u201cmildness\u201d and \u201cself-control.\u201d Ephesians 4:31 condemns \u201cabusive speech.\u201d Hebrews 4:13 says that \u201call things are .\u00a0.\u00a0. openly exposed\u201d to God. So God sees my conduct, even if my neighbors do not. I also learned that I needed to change my associates, since \u201cbad associations spoil useful habits.\u201d (1\u00a0Corinthians 15:33) You see, my former friends actually encouraged my violent ways. They felt it was right to beat a woman to keep her \u201cunder control.\u201dHow do you feel about your marriage now?Valerie: It has been 25 years since Troy and I became baptized. Since then, he has been genuinely loving, kind, and considerate toward me.Troy: I cannot change the evil that I brought on my family, and my wife certainly never deserved the treatment I gave her. But I look forward to the fulfillment of Isaiah 65:17, when this dark part of our history will fade from memory.What advice would each of you give to families that are afflicted with domestic violence?Troy: If you are physically or verbally violent toward your family, admit that you need help, and get it. There is plenty of help available. For me, studying the Bible helped me to overcome my deeply entrenched violent tendencies.Valerie: Do not be quick to compare your situation with that of anyone else or to follow advice from people who think they know what is best for you. Although not everyone will have the same outcome, I am glad that I did not throw my marriage away. You can seek help whether you stay with him or not by learning how Jehovah feels about your situation. He will help you not to live in fear and maybe your husband heart will soften and learn how to treat you. Most men do not know how to be a husband until they learn what is required of them. You can get personal help by visiting jw.org and request a free bible study for you and your husband or for yourself. Jehovah is reaching out to help you please take the invitation and pray to him calling on his name.

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