Etiquette - I was invited to the shower but not the wedding. The bride informed me at the shower?

... after I had already given her an expensive gift. I would not have even gone had I known this. Am I wrong? or:... after I had already given her

... after I had already given her an expensive gift. I would not have even gone had I known this. Am I wrong?

or:... after I had already given her an expensive gift. I would not have even gone had I known this. Am I wrong?

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