Hi everyone, I need advice on serious matter. So me and my kids father have been in a relationship?
... for almost a year now. He has another child that he was hiding for 3years. We have had on and off history for 10 years. We went through a custod
... for almost a year now. He has another child that he was hiding for 3years. We have had on and off history for 10 years. We went through a custody case, visitation the whole 9 yards and some how were back together. Now his other child's mother call him every day. ( He goes in a another room) he goes over her house everyday claiming he there for his child but also hanging out with the mother, her sister's, cousin whole family basically. He has to do every thing for his child but also puts our children on the back burner for her child. Both of our children are austic but her child is not. We have arguments bout this but nothing has been solved. She calls his phone asking where he at? Or when you coming over to see your child etc. Now yesterday was his birthday and we had a great time , he left and went to her house when he came back home he showed me a pictures. He took with her hugged up. While he was telling me about his night the totes in my room fell on him. It was like he was hiding something from me. The next morning I looked at his phone for pictures that we too together and in hisdownloads folder was a picture of him and his child mother kissing!!! I confronted him about and he looked shocked that I had found it. He continued to tell me she kissed him and they were drunk etc and he push her off him and cuss her out and left. I feel so betrayed because he didn't me about it and deep down I felt a change from their child behaviour towards me and the continued changes. Deep down I want to believe it not true but my brain says other wise. I need advice on how to handle this situation because I'm lost and pissed!!
or:... for almost a year now. He has another child that he was hiding for 3years. We have had on and off history for 10 years. We went through a custody case, visitation the whole 9 yards and some how were back together. Now his other child's mother call him every day. ( He goes in a another room) he goes over her house everyday claiming he there for his child but also hanging out with the mother, her sister's, cousin whole family basically. He has to do every thing for his child but also puts our children on the back burner for her child. Both of our children are austic but her child is not. We have arguments bout this but nothing has been solved. She calls his phone asking where he at? Or when you coming over to see your child etc. Now yesterday was his birthday and we had a great time , he left and went to her house when he came back home he showed me a pictures. He took with her hugged up. While he was telling me about his night the totes in my room fell on him. It was like he was hiding something from me. The next morning I looked at his phone for pictures that we too together and in hisdownloads folder was a picture of him and his child mother kissing!!! I confronted him about and he looked shocked that I had found it. He continued to tell me she kissed him and they were drunk etc and he push her off him and cuss her out and left. I feel so betrayed because he didn't me about it and deep down I felt a change from their child behaviour towards me and the continued changes. Deep down I want to believe it not true but my brain says other wise. I need advice on how to handle this situation because I'm lost and pissed!!
or:I'm so sorry sweetie, but it's time to move on. You deserve better. Your brain is correct. Believe it. I understand, I've been there. My ex cheated on me for 4 years, right under my nose. I didn't see the signs because I didn't want to see them. I didn't want to believe that my husband would treat me that way, and I couldn't imagine how I would ever survive with out him. Then he left me for the other woman. I was forced to move on. But you have a choice. Leave with your dignity still in tact. Don't put up with that crap from anyone. You deserve so much better. Set your standards high, and don't lower them for anyone. People can only treat you poorly if you allow them to. Don't allow him to treat you this way. Move on and find a man who treats you the way you should be treated.(and nothing wrong with going it alone.) Again, I'm so sorry. I know how painful it can be. Hang in there. You will survive, and you will eventually love yourself and love your life so much more with out him in it.
