How do I politely tell somebody that they've got problems?
Theres a kid at my school. Id prefer not to say what grade this is, or where, for the sake of my privacy. He makes weird faces like a kindergartener,
There's a kid at my school. I'd prefer not to say what grade this is, or where, for the sake of my privacy. He makes weird faces like a kindergartener, he yells in class, he steals pens. He's the kind of guy who eats pencil erasers and sticks the graphite through the top layer of his skin. I catch him trying to flirt with me. He's made physical contact with several people in the three years he's been around. And people tent to group him and I because "Oh, she's about the most patient girl here. I don't want to deal with him." It's not shipping or anything, but for three years I've been getting more and more frustrated. I want to tell him, in a *very* polite and smart-sounding way that he's got problems and he needs to deal with them somewhere else. Please... If he recognizes what I'm telling him he'll probably accuse me of verbal assault.
or:There's a kid at my school. I'd prefer not to say what grade this is, or where, for the sake of my privacy. He makes weird faces like a kindergartener, he yells in class, he steals pens. He's the kind of guy who eats pencil erasers and sticks the graphite through the top layer of his skin. I catch him trying to flirt with me. He's made physical contact with several people in the three years he's been around. And people tent to group him and I because \"Oh, she's about the most patient girl here. I don't want to deal with him.\" It's not shipping or anything, but for three years I've been getting more and more frustrated. I want to tell him, in a *very* polite and smart-sounding way that he's got problems and he needs to deal with them somewhere else. Please... If he recognizes what I'm telling him he'll probably accuse me of verbal assault.
or:I second Mircat's advice.
or:Hi, well I would be worried about your safety if he does really strange things like you mentioned, I think maybe you should tell a teacher anonymously or try to get someone of authority involved to keep a close eye on him/ provide any help he may need.. he shouldn't be allowed to carry on like that and you continue to suffer.Mircat: SEE how about giving someone some actual advice instead of condescending them, what so this person should just \"back off\" and not in any way try to get this guy some help while he suffers mentally and the poster suffers because of it?I am SO fed up with you and your passive-aggressive answers, you did the same to my question without any real help and it sucked, how about you \"back off\" and find another hobby aside from answering people's questions, you lack empathy and sound miserable along with that guy agreeing to your comment, I did a bit of digging and original poster, they are old, and miserable PLEASE take no notice of them.It might be better to get an adult involved to try and observe the guy and see what action should be taken from there, might go more smoothly than trying to handle him yourself, he sounds like he has issues, hope it gets resolved for you poster.
or:Let's see if we can pass the filter piecemeal...I had friends who behaved in this manner, and used to do some myself (I would prefer not to say which grade for the sake of my privacy - but it was all of them).
or:It's their parents' business, not yours. And no one's going to recognise you or him on this site.
