How do your relationships with family/friends affect your life?
Im asking because Im wondering if my situation is normal or not so much. I love my family and friends very much. I want the best for them, I worry abo
I'm asking because I'm wondering if my situation is normal or not so much. I love my family and friends very much. I want the best for them, I worry about them, I like them. I think they're good people. How my relationships with them affects my life though is that they mostly just stress me out.( I'm talking about all my relatives and all my friends. I'm not talking about my immediate family: husband, kids). I'm close with them all but not very close with any of them. Preparing to get together with them stresses me out. Being with them is usually kind of awkward and we often irritate each other in small ways by accident. Its like we're both trying to be considerate and thoughtful and fun but none of us are really enjoying our time together. Sometimes after a family visit or a visit with friends is over I feel exhausted and think to myself how I hope I dont have to do that again anytime soon. Once in awhile when one of us is in need of help or support we have the opportunity to be there for each other so that's nice. Honestly though I avoid asking for help at all costs just so I dont have to deal with them and so I can have my privacy and I think they probably do the same. Come to think of it whenever I have received"help" it's often not been what I needed and only caused more trouble. Than when theres something to celebrate the thought comes to my mind to invite family and friends. Theres a bunch of hugs and smiles at first but it always ends up awkward, irritating, and exhausting. Is this pretty normal or is something wrong with my husband my kids and myself? My husband and I sometimes think about moving out of state and puting a little distance between us and our relatives and trying this time to not make too many "friends" ( or nuisances). But that's a whole other subject. Please tell me what is your situation? And what do u think of mine?
or:I'm asking because I'm wondering if my situation is normal or not so much. I love my family and friends very much. I want the best for them, I worry about them, I like them. I think they're good people. How my relationships with them affects my life though is that they mostly just stress me out.( I'm talking about all my relatives and all my friends. I'm not talking about my immediate family: husband, kids). I'm close with them all but not very close with any of them. Preparing to get together with them stresses me out. Being with them is usually kind of awkward and we often irritate each other in small ways by accident. Its like we're both trying to be considerate and thoughtful and fun but none of us are really enjoying our time together. Sometimes after a family visit or a visit with friends is over I feel exhausted and think to myself how I hope I dont have to do that again anytime soon. Once in awhile when one of us is in need of help or support we have the opportunity to be there for each other so that's nice. Honestly though I avoid asking for help at all costs just so I dont have to deal with them and so I can have my privacy and I think they probably do the same. Come to think of it whenever I have received\"help\" it's often not been what I needed and only caused more trouble. Than when theres something to celebrate the thought comes to my mind to invite family and friends. Theres a bunch of hugs and smiles at first but it always ends up awkward, irritating, and exhausting. Is this pretty normal or is something wrong with my husband my kids and myself? My husband and I sometimes think about moving out of state and puting a little distance between us and our relatives and trying this time to not make too many \"friends\" ( or nuisances). But that's a whole other subject. Please tell me what is your situation? And what do u think of mine?
