How to deal with a deranged teenage bully in the work place??
We started off as fairly good friends, she was open and polite. But as time went on i discovered she has this sensational amount of hatred i have ever
We started off as fairly good friends, she was open and polite. But as time went on i discovered she has this sensational amount of hatred i have ever experience for people. I would be positive and encouraging, trying to lift her spirits up, when she has had a hard day. But i soon discovered she took offence over little things as time progressed; the way in which someone looked at her, giving her a compliment, or making a light hearted joke.
Now i know, i am no saint, but everyone in my department knows, i'm a bit of joker. And the things i say are crazy and mind shocking but they know its a joke. When tiring to have a serious conversation about contracts with her, i said there is a phrase in the contract that is ridiculous, and gave a ridiculous example to go with it, that was not directed at her. She then only focused on that ridiculous example and neglected the the rest of the content of our conversation. Getting upset over it.
I apologised, but she is acting like a moody teenager (it doesn't help, she is one). And now is refusing to go in the same room as me, to talk to other work colleagues. To talk to my team, she instant messages them telling them how bored or angry she is. During a conversation with a female colleague she would follow her because she is lonely, then listen into the conversation and burst out with profanity to state her objections of what i said. She threw a pen at me and actively segregating me, turning my own team against me. What arrogates me the most is i find out a member of my team apologises on my behalf for making things awkward behind my back.
It feels like she has a vendetta to actively crush me, and pushing all my buttons until i flip out. (note this has been going on for a month now) I can't believe, i am petrified of a child.
How to deal with a moody teenager??
Do i keep cool and calm and let this wash over me???
Does it sound like she wants to get a reaction out of me, especially when i have been sincere and polite after apologising??
Do i take this further to management, especially when she almost got my supervisor sacked for her childish behaviour, because of telling tall tales that others then reported??
What would you do???
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
or:We started off as fairly good friends, she was open and polite. But as time went on i discovered she has this sensational amount of hatred i have ever experience for people. I would be positive and encouraging, trying to lift her spirits up, when she has had a hard day. But i soon discovered she took offence over little things as time progressed; the way in which someone looked at her, giving her a compliment, or making a light hearted joke.Now i know, i am no saint, but everyone in my department knows, i'm a bit of joker. And the things i say are crazy and mind shocking but they know its a joke. When tiring to have a serious conversation about contracts with her, i said there is a phrase in the contract that is ridiculous, and gave a ridiculous example to go with it, that was not directed at her. She then only focused on that ridiculous example and neglected the the rest of the content of our conversation. Getting upset over it. I apologised, but she is acting like a moody teenager (it doesn't help, she is one). And now is refusing to go in the same room as me, to talk to other work colleagues. To talk to my team, she instant messages them telling them how bored or angry she is. During a conversation with a female colleague she would follow her because she is lonely, then listen into the conversation and burst out with profanity to state her objections of what i said. She threw a pen at me and actively segregating me, turning my own team against me. What arrogates me the most is i find out a member of my team apologises on my behalf for making things awkward behind my back.It feels like she has a vendetta to actively crush me, and pushing all my buttons until i flip out. (note this has been going on for a month now) I can't believe, i am petrified of a child.How to deal with a moody teenager??Do i keep cool and calm and let this wash over me??? Does it sound like she wants to get a reaction out of me, especially when i have been sincere and polite after apologising??Do i take this further to management, especially when she almost got my supervisor sacked for her childish behaviour, because of telling tall tales that others then reported??What would you do??? Thank you for taking the time to read this.
or:I don't really know tell the boss guy or something don't trust me I'm 12
or:this is drama queen time I would just stay away from her let your friends take care of her don't say nothing bad about her to anyone just talk about normal things tall tales can get the wrong idea to anybody let her fend for herself don't even feel sorry for leave her out of everything then she can sink her own ship don't hang with her either its called trouble maker
or:Some people are kind of like that. The best solution (and since I am a teenager, I would do this :P ) is to make her taste her own medicine a.k.a do the same things back to her what she does to you. Trust me she will back off.But if you want to be the mature one in this,and be the adult, then you should like ignore her, treat her coolly and proffessionally if you even have to talk to her so that she knows that the relation between you two is strictly business and not where you would give her your time of the day and that you won't tolerate her 'childness'.Or you could try to talk it out and try to understand why she acts the way she does. Maybe she is having a drug issue or she has problems at home........you know that kinda thinge...........
