I'm in love this girl, but everything falls apart when we try for more. What do I do?
I have known this girl for several years now and we hit it off immediately. We have had intimate "friendships" in the past, but every time I try to ma
I have known this girl for several years now and we hit it off immediately. We have had intimate "friendships" in the past, but every time I try to manage a real relationship with her, she shoots it down.
For the last year I have tried talking her into a real relationship with me. The first time she had said that she felt the same way, but thought it would be best if we just stayed friends. We did that for a while, then a few months later I had brought up the relationship again. This time she responded with several challenges including what would happen when she headed off to college and pursued her life. I tried convincing her to live on the moment and make the best of what we had. Her argumet was that she couldn't fall in love with me, then leave; a convincing argument. I got so frustrated I couldn't even speak to her for a few weewe made up, then she started coming onto me almost violently. Any chance she got she would climb all over me trying to convince me she couldn't help herslef, but it would all be okay. She then tried to begin a different relationship, one my friends call "friends with benefits." I told her I wasn't comfortable with that, but we could try and manage something that would make us both happy. I once again tried for a serious relationship, but she wouldn't have it. It was then that I talked to her cousin, a very good friend of mine, who told me that her intentions were basically to lead me on as much as possible, then shoot me down. That was 2 months ago. I confronted her about it at a movie on Christmas night, I haven't talked to her since except for one time she tried to make up, but told her it wasn't gonna happen again. I see her every day and want her so bad, but I know it's best that I don't go after her anymore. The worst part of all is that I am still madly in love with her, even after that she has done to me. I just don't know what to do...
or:I have known this girl for several years now and we hit it off immediately. We have had intimate \"friendships\" in the past, but every time I try to manage a real relationship with her, she shoots it down. For the last year I have tried talking her into a real relationship with me. The first time she had said that she felt the same way, but thought it would be best if we just stayed friends. We did that for a while, then a few months later I had brought up the relationship again. This time she responded with several challenges including what would happen when she headed off to college and pursued her life. I tried convincing her to live on the moment and make the best of what we had. Her argumet was that she couldn't fall in love with me, then leave; a convincing argument. I got so frustrated I couldn't even speak to her for a few weewe made up, then she started coming onto me almost violently. Any chance she got she would climb all over me trying to convince me she couldn't help herslef, but it would all be okay. She then tried to begin a different relationship, one my friends call \"friends with benefits.\" I told her I wasn't comfortable with that, but we could try and manage something that would make us both happy. I once again tried for a serious relationship, but she wouldn't have it. It was then that I talked to her cousin, a very good friend of mine, who told me that her intentions were basically to lead me on as much as possible, then shoot me down. That was 2 months ago. I confronted her about it at a movie on Christmas night, I haven't talked to her since except for one time she tried to make up, but told her it wasn't gonna happen again. I see her every day and want her so bad, but I know it's best that I don't go after her anymore. The worst part of all is that I am still madly in love with her, even after that she has done to me. I just don't know what to do...
or:You should move on, she doesn't deserve you. Someone who is better than her would come into your life & fill your life with lots of love.
or:I think when theses things get started like that and you go through theses things you ask yourself is she the right one for me you think so but nothing ever happens with it because one say they want the same thing but in actuallty theres nothing there but friend ship if even that then you find out that it was a lead on another else its a scary thing
