Long distance relationship move.. am I being selfish?
Me and my partner live 250 miles away from each otherI am happy to move to be with him once ive found a jobIve got a job interview for a suitable job
Me and my partner live 250 miles away from each other
I am happy to move to be with him once ive found a job
Ive got a job interview for a suitable job coming up
Although now my parents are giving me the following reasons
Not to go
I have a dog, he is my dog and on that basis i want to keep him
and continue my commitment i took on, my parents are saying they
Want to keep him and i cant. Following from this they want me to wait
until the dog has died until i move as he will be less of a restriction/burden
on there life. Average life span of this breed shows another 5 years of living
The other option they have given me is that i wait until my grandma dies
My grandma is old and somewhat frailshe doesnt require constant care, just company and
taking out on a saturday for shopping etc My grandma could have a good five years
also, could be less or more i dont know.
Basically as my parents go to my nans to keep her company
And take her out on a saturday its a responsibility in there life
the dog is another responsibility, they dont want me to leave them
With these responsibilities. A simple solution is me to have my own dog
But im not allowed, even if i moved out into the surrounding area
they wouldnt let me keep him
They have expressed they dont think if my partner moved into my house
it would work, dont get me wrong they like him and get on with him
Although they say due to his different upbringing it
would cause arguements. This would force us straight into rented
Accomodation when we are trying to be responsible and save for a mortgage.
Please tell me am i being selfish or are my parents guilt tripping me?
or:Me and my partner live 250 miles away from each otherI am happy to move to be with him once ive found a jobIve got a job interview for a suitable job coming upAlthough now my parents are giving me the following reasonsNot to goI have a dog, he is my dog and on that basis i want to keep himand continue my commitment i took on, my parents are saying they Want to keep him and i cant. Following from this they want me to waituntil the dog has died until i move as he will be less of a restriction/burdenon there life. Average life span of this breed shows another 5 years of livingThe other option they have given me is that i wait until my grandma diesMy grandma is old and somewhat frailshe doesnt require constant care, just company andtaking out on a saturday for shopping etc My grandma could have a good five yearsalso, could be less or more i dont know.Basically as my parents go to my nans to keep her companyAnd take her out on a saturday its a responsibility in there lifethe dog is another responsibility, they dont want me to leave themWith these responsibilities. A simple solution is me to have my own dog But im not allowed, even if i moved out into the surrounding areathey wouldnt let me keep himThey have expressed they dont think if my partner moved into my houseit would work, dont get me wrong they like him and get on with himAlthough they say due to his different upbringing it would cause arguements. This would force us straight into rentedAccomodation when we are trying to be responsible and save for a mortgage.Please tell me am i being selfish or are my parents guilt tripping me?
or:it sounds like they don't want you to move thats what i'm getting and if the dog is yours it makes no sense why you can't take it with you it sounds like they are using the dog as a reason to keep you here at the same time they are giving you reasons why you can't leave it sounds like they are up there in age where they want you closer but one thing that is interesting is they are going through extremes to get their arguments meant is a weird way of doing it the dog is yours but you can't have him and they don't want the responsibility of taking care of him but they don't want you to have him either
