Move with my family or stay where I am? Please Help?

So my family is now wanting to move to the mid-west and demanding an answer as of right now, if I am going with them or not . (Im in the West coast) T

So my family is now wanting to move to the mid-west and demanding an answer as of right now, if I am going with them or not . (I'm in the West coast) They tell me if I go then I can still be part of the family and go to a good school and live my life easier, but if I decide to stay then I'm basically abandoning them and will no longer be part of the family and they will just burn and get rid of any memory of me since I don't want to be part of the family anyways and I will forever be on my own because whoever is in my life right now will not be there in the end and I'm assed out of everything. (Sorry for my run on) This is really hard on me because I feel like they are basically saying I have no choice, and it hurts the fact they would even say that without considering it's a bit too harsh. Mind you I'm 19 and already in college nearly a year away from getting my associates in bio and will be going to a university to get my bachelors, I'm a assistant manager at my job. I do have a bf and it would break me to leave him because I would like to spend my life with him if possible (I doubt it but I can dream) but I refuse to have him be the reason I stay. Especially with the chance he could drop me in heart beat if he wanted to not to mention he is after all my first bf so really it would be dumb if I made him my reason to stay. I don't know what to do and i'm stressed enough and this is causing a depression to me thinking I might lose everything if I decide I want to stay.....I feel like this shouldn't be the feeling or the case, I need help. I need advice to ease my thoughts and make a decision without losing my family......

or:So my family is now wanting to move to the mid-west and demanding an answer as of right now, if I am going with them or not . (I'm in the West coast) They tell me if I go then I can still be part of the family and go to a good school and live my life easier, but if I decide to stay then I'm basically abandoning them and will no longer be part of the family and they will just burn and get rid of any memory of me since I don't want to be part of the family anyways and I will forever be on my own because whoever is in my life right now will not be there in the end and I'm assed out of everything. (Sorry for my run on) This is really hard on me because I feel like they are basically saying I have no choice, and it hurts the fact they would even say that without considering it's a bit too harsh. Mind you I'm 19 and already in college nearly a year away from getting my associates in bio and will be going to a university to get my bachelors, I'm a assistant manager at my job. I do have a bf and it would break me to leave him because I would like to spend my life with him if possible (I doubt it but I can dream) but I refuse to have him be the reason I stay. Especially with the chance he could drop me in heart beat if he wanted to not to mention he is after all my first bf so really it would be dumb if I made him my reason to stay. I don't know what to do and i'm stressed enough and this is causing a depression to me thinking I might lose everything if I decide I want to stay.....I feel like this shouldn't be the feeling or the case, I need help. I need advice to ease my thoughts and make a decision without losing my family......

or:First, you must relax. Can't make big decisions whilst overwhelmed. Preferably go out for a walk in a nearby park.Close family usually aspires to unconditional love.What you're describing here sounds very different from that. Possibly, there's some short circuit in communication: That they have an important reason to present an ultimatum, that you misunderstand their assertions, that some details about your family and relationship with them were omitted from the post.What's that talk of a \"good school\" - is anything wrong with the college you're currently attending?

or:You're an adult, can provide for yourself, are currently in the middle of a higher education, and don't want to move, don't. I honestly think your family will get over it as they come to see you as an adult.

or:If your family is talking about rejecting you, that is a family you don't want to be a part of anyway. That hurts, but there it is. It sounds like you have only a casual relationship with this guy. That's normal. Your problem is that you will be suddenly alone. In my experience, that feeling lasts only a few days. And then you just get on with your life.

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