Need some life/relationship advice?
Basically I am 23 and extremely lonely. I have never been particularly good in social situations, but I used to have a life. Now, two of my best frien
Basically I am 23 and extremely lonely. I have never been particularly good in social situations, but I used to have a life. Now, two of my best friends are in Prison and the other has just had a child so I don't see much of him.
I have never had a girlfriend and am still a virgin, this bothers me a lot and the fact I spend 90% of my time alone makes it even worse. I have a decent job and wouldn't say I'm unattractive. I'm 6ft4 and slim.
It's really starting to get to me and I need to do something about it. I need advice on how to meet a girl and people in general really. I've tried online dating but didn't have any luck. I'm thinking about going to a crowded area and trying to spark up conversation but I think this would be difficult. I can have a decent conversation but I am not very good at small talk.
What would you do if you were in my position?
or:Basically I am 23 and extremely lonely. I have never been particularly good in social situations, but I used to have a life. Now, two of my best friends are in Prison and the other has just had a child so I don't see much of him. I have never had a girlfriend and am still a virgin, this bothers me a lot and the fact I spend 90% of my time alone makes it even worse. I have a decent job and wouldn't say I'm unattractive. I'm 6ft4 and slim. It's really starting to get to me and I need to do something about it. I need advice on how to meet a girl and people in general really. I've tried online dating but didn't have any luck. I'm thinking about going to a crowded area and trying to spark up conversation but I think this would be difficult. I can have a decent conversation but I am not very good at small talk. What would you do if you were in my position?
or:1. Think back to the life you used to have; can you re-create the situation/circumstances? 2. Stay away from people in prison or just out; you don't want to be sucked up into their drama.3. If you are religious or are interested in becoming religious, join a church you think would be a good fit for what you believe.4. Join an adult education class or a group that meets up for birdwatching, dancing, hiking, etc. If you don't want to go by yourself, take a friend/brother/sister the first few times.5. Don't worry about being a virgin. You've got time. But if it REALLY bothers you, put some money aside for a trip somewhere where prostitution is legal--Reno or Amsterdam.6. Be a Big Brother, or volunteer at a homeless shelter. Volunteering will let you meet different types of people and take your mind of your problem. You can't dwell on it too much.7. As for socializing in general--do not think of yourself or worry about how you are being perceived. Focus on the people you are with. Worry about their comfort and concerns. Ask them about their lives; ask them how their day is going. Ask follow up questions. Tell stories about funny things that have happened to you and make them laugh. They will enjoy your company.8. Stay positive; no one likes a Debbie Downer.9. On line dating sucks; you are not a failure if it didn't work for you; probably doesn't work for most people.10. Life experience will make you stronger; throw yourself into different situations just to see how you will handle them. But no matter what, have FUN. Life is short.
or:Think back to the time when you \"had a life\"; can you re-create the situation/circumstances?Stay away from anyone in prison or just out; you don't want to be sucked up into their drama.Join an adult education class or a group that meets up for dancing, birdwatching, hiking, sports, etc.Volunteer at a homeless shelter or as a Big BrotherDon't worry about being a virgin; you've got time; if it REALLY bothers you, save up for a trip somewhere prostitution is legal--Reno or AmsterdamStay off social media--it is full of trolls who will latch into your depression and they will try to make you feel worseDo positive/kind things for strangersNever worry about yourself when dealing with others; focus on them and their comfort; ask them to tell about their lives; how their day has been; ask follow up questions; tell funny stories about yourself; make them laugh; they will enjoy being around youYou are going to be great.
