Pregnancy - My husband does not want children now but I do?
Pregnancy - All of my friends are almost married now and pregnant, I am 26 this year. I am still waiting for husband to be ready for children. I am at
Pregnancy - All of my friends are almost married now and pregnant, I am 26 this year. I am still waiting for husband to be ready for children. I am at that stage where I get mad talking about it which is not right. I have been asking this question a while now and waiting for a year now. My husband wants to have children at the right time. He is over planning this. He wants us to settle more before having children. There are a lot of challenges for us this past 3 years and there are still more coming. So I do not know what to do with this feeling. I did think about maybe I should start buying nappies or baby stuff just to set my mind and anger at ease. But is this the right way? My feelings about this are spinning viral and I need to get it under control. Our parents can not wait for us to have children. The are not getting any younger. Everyone is ready for a year now it's just my husband. I am getting frustrated. I love him a lot and I do not want to push him into a situation he is not ready for. But the challenges we have now is that he is really busy at work and from January I will be busy with teaching in another town near us. Challenges like this has been happening for the last 3 years now. It's a never ending story but why still wait? I am afraid I will be too old once we have children. My husband just says lets wait a while lets settle in my job and yours. But his was the same answer when we wanted to get married. He still had work challenge once we got married so it's newer going to end why wait still?
or:Pregnancy - All of my friends are almost married now and pregnant, I am 26 this year. I am still waiting for husband to be ready for children. I am at that stage where I get mad talking about it which is not right. I have been asking this question a while now and waiting for a year now. My husband wants to have children at the right time. He is over planning this. He wants us to settle more before having children. There are a lot of challenges for us this past 3 years and there are still more coming. So I do not know what to do with this feeling. I did think about maybe I should start buying nappies or baby stuff just to set my mind and anger at ease. But is this the right way? My feelings about this are spinning viral and I need to get it under control. Our parents can not wait for us to have children. The are not getting any younger. Everyone is ready for a year now it's just my husband. I am getting frustrated. I love him a lot and I do not want to push him into a situation he is not ready for. But the challenges we have now is that he is really busy at work and from January I will be busy with teaching in another town near us. Challenges like this has been happening for the last 3 years now. It's a never ending story but why still wait? I am afraid I will be too old once we have children. My husband just says lets wait a while lets settle in my job and yours. But his was the same answer when we wanted to get married. He still had work challenge once we got married so it's newer going to end why wait still?
or:Maybe its insurance problem if he isn't ready let him settle in and you get settled in and start saving for baby things so when the time comes you have the stuff to have baby. This would make the situation a little more bearing and you can be settled with the idea that your doing the right thing thats what i would think to do.
or:There is never a right time to have a baby. Challenges will always come. I would consider a timeline. U and your husband should discuss a timeline. Eg. Consider having a baby in one year. That way it gives you time to get things in order and if not have a baby anyways cause that was the agreed timeline. Plus getting pregnant might not be easy. Sometimes all it takes is just one time but then again it may be months of trying to get pregnant.
